Get busy in public or outdoor
What makes this exciting for most people is the possibility of getting caught. But that doesn’t mean you don’t need to be careful. Public sex can happen anywhere and in any way. You don’t always need penetration. Bring a sex toy. Slip your hand under your partner’s skirt or in their pants. Slip away to the bathroom together. If that’s more than you can handle, look for a private place like a wooded area or a beach. The thrill can be just in fucking each other outside and not about possibly getting caught.
Let your Voyeristic side out
Get off on the idea of watching other people get off together? Being a voyeur while someone else has sex is hot for a lot of people. You can enjoy the scene and let yourself be turned on. Even better, you can learn something new about pleasure and sex. It’s an intensely personal thing to watch someone else. If it makes you want to masturbate and get yourself off, no shame. Just make sure you have the full consent of the people you’re watching or, if it’s a public display of sexy fun, that you’re discreet.
Try role play
You can take role play as far as you’d like. If you just want to pretend to be someone else in the bedroom, go for it. But if you want to go full-on character in a sexy costume, you can do that, too. Portray your favorite character or try to be someone completely new. Got a schoolgirl fantasy about a sexy teacher? Try it out! Want to be the mysterious stranger who gets picked up in a bar? Go for it! You can be anyone you want to be in your role play and so can your partner.
Experiance Anal play
Anal play isn’t for everyone, but many people think it’s not for them because it’s hurt in the past or was uncomfortable. If you’re new to it or willing to try again, there are plenty of ways to experience anal in a way that feels really damn good. Start small – a small plug or a finger – and use lots of lube, more than you think you need. Stimulate your body while your partner plays with your butt. This will help you relax and let the penetration happen. Once you graduate up to large dildos, plugs, or penetration with your partner’s penis, try different positions. Not all anal has to be done in doggy style. Go as slow as you need to do and only do what feels good.
Check out a swingers club
Not everyone is a swinger and that’s okay, but the experience can certainly open your eyes to new forms of pleasure. You can join in or not, that’s up to you. What you must always do is respect the rules of the club you attend. If you want to be able to go back later or join in on the fun, you’ve got to be respectful and understand consent. Simply watching, even if you don’t fuck anyone, can be quite an eye opener.